Mental health for Women: Proactive self-care approach

Our mental health as women is constantly challenged and under pressure, more so because of how society continues to view, respond and expect from us.

We continue to be treated as objects, second class citizens and unequal beings. As a result of this, being a woman feels like a constant struggle against a society that violates, devalues, undermines and silences us. This places a lot of strain on our mental health and makes us more prone to trauma, stress, anxiety and depression. It therefore crucial for us to prioritize our mental wellbeing, in the face of our continued daily struggle against a society that devalues us:

1. Express yourself

Learn to express your feelings in ways that are healthy and comfortable for you. Expression of feelings doesn’t always have to be verbal, you can write or paint depending on what works for you. Also strive to have a nonjudgmental confidant.

2. Have a selfish day

This is where everything is by you, for you and about you. Spend time thinking positive things about you, do positive things for you and nurture positive emotions through doing things that make you laugh, feel relaxed, hopeful and encouraged.

3. Set your own standards

Whose standards are you following? I am asking in terms of beauty and how to be as a person. Following society’s standards for a woman is often exhausting, as these standards are mostly unrealistic and unfair, with a harsh judgment should we be deemed not to be following these. So woman you are safe in your self-defined standards!

4. Become a deliberate reader/viewer

Read books, articles and view videos that nurture your soul, that encourage you and build on the standards you have set for yourself.

5. Validate your humanity

Give yourself permission to feel and express emotions. Embrace your mistakes, weaknesses and failures as they are a confirmation of your humanness.

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