Grief a universal concept and a unique experience

Grief is an emotional and behavioural response experienced because of loss. We have always talked about grief and we need to continue the conversations, especially in the context of many different losses experienced as a result of the Covid-19 pandemic.

1. Normalcy of grief

Grief is a normal response to an experience of any kind of loss. A response does not always imply a presence of emotions, as numbness is also a response for some people.

2. Universal yet a unique experience

The experience of grief has some universal elements; however, it can be expressed in many unique ways. It is therefore important that people are allowed to express their grief in ways that are unique and helpful for their journey. Although grief can be a collective experience, it can also be a unique experience because of many factors. In case of loss of a loved one through death, the unique factors are the nature of the relationship with the deceased, the personality of the person dealing with the loss, circumstances around the death, cultural context etc.

3. Caution in prescribing grief

We should also be careful of prescribing the emotions, experiences, length and tasks of mourning based on our own experiences and beliefs. We should rather encourage people to explore what works for their grief journey based on who they are.

4. Encourage professional support

Where there is a serious concern regarding the mental health of the person experiencing grief, raise the concern with them and encourage them to consider professional help.

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